It’s not a nice feeling—you thought you were doing a great job and getting on well with everyone in your workplace. Then, out of nowhere, you’ve got an invite from HR or your manager asking for a ‘chat’.
The feeling of despair, gloom and doom that follows is natural.
It’s easier said than done, but the first step is not to panic. The feeling of dread is because it’s jarring to be treated this way, especially when you take your work seriously.
Your employer shouldn’t make decisions to discipline (or worse, terminate) without first giving you the opportunity to respond with information relevant to the allegations. If they make decisions that negatively impact you without your consultation or input, they are not providing you with procedural fairness, which they should. You are still an employee, and they owe it to you to give you a fair go at explaining yourself. When an employer fails to do this, they may be in breach of the law, and you may have the right to make a legal claim against them.
Support person
Whether it’s your first meeting or not, you can request to bring a support person with you. A support person is someone who provides moral and emotional support during the meeting. This can be a friend, family member, neighbour, union representative, a coworker, or even a lawyer. While a support person usually cannot advocate for you during the meeting (meaning they cannot respond to allegations or questions on your behalf) they go a long way, simply by helping you stay calm and reduce the likelihood of mishaps. Their role is to help you feel supported. They can call for breaks if they think you need time to regain composure, and they can offer ideas or advice on responding to questions. They can also take notes and ask questions for clarification, which can help you better understand the employer’s process.
Responding to the best of your ability and knowledge
It’s important to be upfront, honest and clear when addressing allegations or questions, either verbally or in writing. To the extent that you are able to do so safely and effectively, you can and should participate in any opportunity to respond. You should not allow yourself to be rushed, and if you need more time or can’t think straight because this is an ambush meeting, be truthful: ask for an extension on time, or for allegations to be detailed in writing so that you have a fair chance to properly consider when your head is clearer.
Honest communication, and later honest participation, helps maintain your credibility and prevents any unintentional damage to it.
Don’t hesitate to ask for clarification if you don’t understand a particular allegation or question. You likely don’t have all the information that your employer possesses. It’s possible that you may have even misunderstood a specific obligation, process or procedure, which could explain the allegations against you.
It’s perfectly acceptable to inquire about the source of that obligation, process or procedure. In case you overlooked it, you can ask where it can be found and whether your employer has previously communicated it clearly. If your actions were unintentional or inadvertently violated a policy because you were unaware it existed, you have a valid basis to argue that your actions were a mistake.
If you have genuinely made a mistake or misunderstood an obligation, process or procedure, and didn’t intend for your actions to be perceived in a certain way, take this opportunity to reflect on any wrongdoing. Create a future where the employer gets you for all the good, with all the risks removed. Suggest practical solutions for correcting your conduct. Acknowledge your mistake, take accountability, and apologise if appropriate. You may also consider proposing training courses or creating a plan to address the situation moving forward.
Get advice
We understand these situations can be stressful, and tensions often run high. While it’s natural to expect the worst, having a solid grasp of the legal requirements and your rights and entitlements can significantly reduce stress.
Being called in to answer questions is not negative; it doesn’t have to be a confrontational or highly charged experience. It’s a fine balance to try and control, but your employer does have a right (and possibly an obligation) to put allegations and investigate in many circumstances—they’re probably doing their job by asking. You mustn’t forget though that, depending on your goals, if you need to clear your name and continue working there, you need to do it practically and sensitively, without burning the whole house down. This probably means that if things are complex, you should get some advice, because making the wrong strategic choices and taking adversarial tangents can cause more harm than good if you want to get your career back on track.
How DKL can help
At DKL, we understand that receiving allegations can significantly impact you. We have experience working with both employees and employers, witnessing scenarios unfold, and advising on holistic strategies that pursue your preferred goals. Having a lot of experience with the nuances involved allows us to handle these situations effectively. Our analytical and methodical approach enables us to navigate challenging circumstances while focusing on the bigger picture and the best possible outcomes for you.
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